So Stephen and I are getting married.
Quite aside from the woo factor, is the how, what, where, when and why. Hang on, scrap the why. That’s kinda soppy The how and the what are also fairly self explanatory, so I guess it’s actually just the where and when. But still, two big questions!
We were going to go with September, as that’s when our anniversary is, but there’s way too much other stuff going on at that time of year. Ella’s birthday is at the end of August, and there’s a bunch of other birthdays around then too. I need to make sure the focus is going to be entirely on me. And not just when we get married, but at our anniversary. Every. Year. Forever.
So, we’ve decided on June, for the when. I think. I like June because it’s in the middle of the year. Which may or may not seem like a good/important/relevant thing to you folks, especially given it’ll be the middle of winter here in Oz, but I LOVE it. The reason for that being that my birthday is in January. For those of you without a birthday so close to Christmas, or those of you who don’t appreciate gifts the same way I do – you probably don’t get it. But for all the rest of you poor suckers out there with a birthday in December or January – I know you’re feelin’ me. All those joint Christmas/birthday presents I got throughout my childhood can go to hell! Finally, I have a chance to be celebrated mid-year. Hooray! I’m pretty much unbudgable (is that a word? Meh) on this point.
As for the where – the ‘wedding’ itself is going to be a non-event. I don’t mean that in a bad way – just that we’re going to do the deed at the registry office, with immediate family only present. Stephen is a bit shy and doesn’t want a whole bunch of people watching him (cute), and I don’t want to waste a bunch of money on (another) wedding. I know from experience that a beautiful wedding does NOT make a happy marriage. More on that some other time. So that’s that.
There will be a party though – and this time I’m going to enjoy it! As I said (fairly recently, you might have noticed), a beautiful wedding does not make a happy marriage. Nor does it necessarily make for a good time. A ‘reception’ is way too much stress, and not enough fun. But what else can you do, you ask? WELL. You can have a PARTAY. Simple, not expensive, and more conducive to fun. A local pub will do, small tab with subsidised drinks, and ta da!
Now you might be thinking, ‘so what is the actual question? It seems to all be figured out…’ And, gentle viewers, really you’re right. Even so, other ideas have their way of meandering through my thoughts. Vegas, for one. I’ve always thought it would be totally awesome to get married in Vegas. Right? Riiiiiight?! Totally. Anyway, we probably can’t afford it, and we wouldn’t be able to take Ella, so it’s probably a no. But then I get to thinking ‘well what if we just waited a bit longer? Then we could afford it’. Which is true – but there are reasons for getting married so soon. Such as, I want to try for baby #2 next year, after the festive season (not missing out on that for the 3rd year in a row! Pregnancy and tiny baby held me back the past 2, but not this year! Oooooh no), and I am NOT getting married while pregnant. Capacity for fun at pregnant wedding = 0. Capacity for stress = infinity.
Looking back at what I’ve just written, I have to say I sound pretty definite on all aspects involved. Thanks for the sounding board! The one thing I’m not sure of, nor probably will ever be, is whether Stephen is getting what he wants out of this. He says he is, but being of the less communicative man-breed, who the hell knows if that’s actually the case. I’ll just have to settle for taking his word for it. Bah.
So… I’m getting married in June!